A new type of identity emerges from the shadows, and requires respect. They are non-binary people whose sex identity exists beyond men and women alone. Felix Desmarais reports.
Light and dark, life and death, left and right, boy and girl. Binaries, decades and paras. Gentlemen help us make sense of things. Computers are based on them, as with many other aspects of culture.
But we also know that light and dark between gray shades. Things are often more complex than at first glance.
However, the binary of men and women continues, in everything to complete forms to use public toilets.
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A "new" group now challenges that idea, and it is called "non-binary" people – those whose gender is not aligned simply to a man or a woman.
Ethan Thompson is 21 years old, ideally and good, with striking eyes at the same time green green. They – Thompson – use neutral names that they themselves / themselves. They are not a boy, and not a girl; not a man, not a woman. Just Ethan.
Ethan Thompson is not twofold – they say "if you want to simplify it".
"In 2015, I started an inquiry and questioned myself.
"By the end of the year, I was sure that a man, a boy, was all – it was not a good fit. The Society has this binary, this idea of black and white, blue and pink . It's definitely hard when you do not sit in those. "
Part of the catalyst was meeting with other people who were in opposition or in one.
"I think I've met four or five cross friends in that trimester, and they're still good friends now. This first phase was quite great in my life.
"He went to see the inside of a tidy box from the edge to the person I was sitting at each other in my district. It became part of a daily dialogue."
In Thompson's experience, there are many challenges to be non-binary, of micro-aggression to violence.
"So many I do not imagine that, are I? &" People who treat you a bit a bit away. You think that they may have a bad day .
"As a rule, there's something in your mind, oh, maybe I'm too sensitive, or perhaps I could imagine something, maybe that appearance was not what is the hell that that? & # 39; "
Filling in forms is simply an invalid task. "The census was earlier in the year was a mess. I wrote more notes on the census than answered questions.
"Men or women said [at the beginning], then throughout the document, it was like you're going here, if you're a woman, go here.
"That's a pretty big thing, which is the New Zealand population census. It was not so aware of it. I'm frustrated about it."
The emergence of obvious non-binary gender identities already affects government policy. In August, the Parliament's governing and administration selection committee published its final report on a bill that would amend the Registration of Births, Deaths, Marriages and Relationships Act, which was last amended in 1995.
The bill, who will now move on to his second reading, will reform the gender reassignment process on birth certificates from the Family Court process, to a simple self statement, bringing birth certificates in accordance and the process of sex reassignment on driver licenses and passports.
The bill would also present the option of a sex X marker as well as M and F, and the "parent" option on a child's birth certificate, rather than just a mother or father.
Thompson says that the changes would make the deed less discriminatory to New Zealand and transgender. They say that the wording is currently "terrible horrible". "Sadly for transsexual people."
The bill is sponsored by NZ First MP Tracey Martin, who voted against marriage equality legislation in 2013. It was not available for comments.
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Official documents are not just the only ones that are unique to non-binary identities. Thompson says that just spending a penny can be a source of concern.
"Bathrooms are a big thing. Not only are I more likely to be assaulted or hurt, I'm worried, if I go to the bathroom, someone goes to say something to me. This is sitting in the stand waiting for everyone else to leave. "
He was using the bathroom in a snooker hall at Courtenay Place in Wellington a few years ago that stood for Thompson as one of his worst experiences of transphobia.
"I had been playing for about half an hour and went into the bathroom. I use women's bathroom because I feel most comfortable there. I will use gender neutral bathroom if there is one.
"I was washing my hands and m [the barman] put the door open. I jumped out of skin.
"I thought someone had to really need to go to the bathroom, but no, 100 percent were physically aggressive.
"I do not remember the words exactly, but said something like" Oh, c … do not use women's bathroom. "I was scared and surprised.
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"He has a considerable distance now, but for a while later he would still be my husband when I tried to talk about it. I was shocked the first day. I felt unsafe physical and shaken.
"I said something along the lines I will continue to use what bathroom I feel most comfortable in. I tried to continue playing for a while, because I was there to play a snooker and I wanted to play a snooker.
"I can go before I left and said," Do you apologize for what you did to me? "" Something like women did not say Wants men in women's bathroom
"This is the point I was breaking down. I said some half-formated sentence, and said, Well, I'm from a different time.
"I'd like, & # 2016 & # 39 ;."
RIGHTS AND RESPONSE
Ahi Wi-Hongi, national co-ordinator of support and advocacy of the Sex Minority of Aotearoa, says that non-binary people are trying to be special, they are trying to be recognized as their own. Wi-Hongi also uses their / their celebrities.
"Sometimes people think it's new because of a sudden we see a lot of people who use words that are not binary that have little visibility in the past.
"It's about to become more acceptable social."
Wi-Hongi says that earlier generations of transsexual and non-intimate people will often wait until a later life comes out.
"Now we see more support for people to come out while younger. So many birling teenagers, or many young people, are likely to be sudden, but really , they come out like teenagers instead of staying. "
It was asked what people do not like binary, Wi-Hongi, who is a person takatāpui, sexually non-binary, jokes: "Hot rubbing and hot chips.
"I believe that most non-binary people, like everyone else, would like to have the same human rights as everyone else, the same access to identity that reflects who them.
"Being able to see themselves is meaningful is very important. Work, housing, healthcare, full participation in society and to live a full life and be happy."
An important part of that is to use the correct names and names. "When you meet someone's dog and say," What is his name? "And they say, his name and her that you're going, Oh, my complaint, sorry! – It's so simple that. I would like to be referred to as who we are.
"It would be pretty strange to meet someone and say, Sam my name and they're going," She Jim would. "It would, we want to refer to someone who they are.
It's just a basic respect. "
People should not be nervous about making mistakes with names, they say – that's the effort that counts.
"The small things people are doing to strive to recognize that they understand that you are a person and you also deserve a basic respect, it's going far okay. "
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The anthropology specialist of the University of Auckland, Susanna Trnka, said that the idea of something like social construction is reflected in its field of study.
"For a long time, anthropologists have recognized that sex is fluid and multiple. Looking across history, and perhaps even more spectacular, across different cultures, it's quite clear that some is not always binary and that other cultures recognize three, four, or more births.
"In other words, sex is socially built, and when we see a gender, and who is considered to belong to a certain sex, is determined & # 39 socially.
"However, this does not mean that there is no physiological component of the way we look at sex, because societies tend to connect some physical features with some types of sex identification – but there is flexibility in this is the case, and certainly there is no rigid structure of the sex binaries. "
TRANSLATING TRANSGENDER – GEIRFA
Sexuality: Not necessarily related to gender identity. An unfamiliar quote shows well: "Sexuality is who you want to wake up next. She's the one who wants to wake up like."
Transgender / Transgender: Describes someone whose identity does not match gender that they have been assigned at birth. It is believed that there are around 55,000 Kiwis transgender. *
Cisgender / cis: "Sis" named. Describes someone whose gender-specific identity is assigned at birth.
Takatāpui: A term favored by some Māori who recognize dual identity of tangata whenua and quern / rainbow.
DeerIntersex: Someone whose sexy features are ambiguous. A person may not know that they have an adult intersex anatomy, when the body is able to develop differently.
Non-binary: Person whose sex does not match male or female. A non-binary person can identify with each sex, sex, or no. Non-binary people may be described as transsexual, but transsexual people are not necessarily binary.
Sexual change: It is no longer acceptable, and widely considered as a reduction, too simple and offensive.
TERF: Radical / feminist radical / exclusion feminist. Having used to refer to some feminists who do not believe women should be involved across with women's kiss. After being considered slurred by some.
* Source: Sex Minorities Aotearoa
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